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Welcome to our Documenting Love series where we capture people's love stories through photos and the written word (Image: Janelle Elaine Photography).
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Documenting Love: Tricia & Dane's Story

Welcome to our Documenting Love series where we capture people's love stories through photos and the written word. This may be one of our favorite weekly series! Check out the gallery and read the couples love story below. Keep in mind that we ask the couples to answer the questions separately so we can draw parallels between their experiences and, you know, say a collective, "Ahhhhhhh!" If you or someone you know wants to be featured in this series, please get in touch with us, hello@seattlerefined.com.

Tricia
Dane started working at Lowe's a year or so after I did. When I first met him, he was being given the store tour. I specifically remember him having such a shy smile. And he gave off this warm, kind feeling. His job required him to be all over the store and he'd always come to my department to flirt with me. He'd pretend to use my computer (but really he was just randomly opening & closing apps). There was something about him that felt very natural to me and being comfortable around him came so easy. So I decided to ask him out! And each step forward has come just as natural ever since.

Dane
My first memory of Trish is from my new hire tour of Lowe's. We passed by her and HR introduced her to us and I remember how she had the biggest smile on her face. She claims I looked very shy and innocent, but I argue she looked even more so than me. I don't think I can picture the first time I met anyone as vividly as when I met Trish. I know the exact spot and what she was doing and how she had her hair.

Tricia
He's such a driven and devoted man. He puts everything he has into whatever it is he's doing. Whether it's a passion of his, or a chore he dreads. Often times, most of our week days are filled with things we'd rather not be doing (work, chores, cooking, errands) and he balances it all with such grace. He doesn't give himself nearly enough credit, but he's always working towards something.

Dane
I'm proud of Trish for taking a big risk by leaving Lowe's to take on the electrical trade. She is a very quick learner and works extremely hard. She is already making a positive name for herself in a field where your reputation is extremely important.

Tricia
We hadn't been dating that long, nor had the conversation that established what either of us wanted it to be -but I was CRAZY about him. I had just been accepted into a training program to become an electrician and all this fear came flooding in. I was doubting my decision and thinking about keeping my comfortable, dead end job. We were laying on my bed one night, sharing all our best and worst thoughts like we do -and he listened with such empathy as I gave all the reasons I "shouldn't" take the job. The biggest one being that the pay off would take several years.

He pulled me in, tucked my hair behind my ear and told me in the most gentle, but encouraging way, that we'd figure it out. He pointed out that I shouldn't get in my own way or let my finances dictate this decision because WE would figure it out.

For me, that was a very telling moment in our relationship. He showed me the first of a million ways that he'll be there as my partner - cheering me on.

Dane
I knew I loved Trish when her ex boyfriend came over to visit her. I didn't really know what we were at the time but I knew I wanted more. I hate to admit it, but I got really jealous when he came to visit her for the week and it took me a couple of days to realize why it bothered me so much. A couple weeks later I told her I loved her... making me the one who said it first.

Tricia
We both come from families with somewhat broken relationships, so our role models of love haven't been the best. And while we may not know what we're doing any more than the rest- we both have an understanding that relationships require a lot of work. We're going to get on each others nerves. We're going to disagree. We're going to disappoint each other, and sometimes even struggle to forgive one another. And that's okay. But what really defines our relationship is how we CHOOSE to work through it. Do we let the issues fester into resentment or do we face them head on? Do we remember that it's US against the problem, not us against each other?

We have our bad days just like any other couple, but we also know that as long as we both care about the relationship enough to solve it, then we can always move on.

Dane
I think what sets our relationship apart from others is how much we click. We are passionate and also best friends. We take the time to listen to each other's daily events. I can tell that Trish really cares and so do I. We look forward to the time we get to spend together. Other people talk about how it is a chore but we don't think so in the slightest.

Tricia
We had already talked about getting married, and I knew it was bound to happen at some point. But I didn't know when or where, so the anticipation was always lingering. I figured on my birthday or our anniversary, which also happens to be his birthday, and both were approaching. But it was the night before a huge test that would determine his graduation from grad school and he was studying on the couch. Well, more like stressing on the couch. And we decided to take a walk for some fresh air to clear his head. We naturally ended up at this little gem of a spot I took him to when we first started dating- a string lit gazebo that overlooks the city. We held each other for warmth (November cold)and kissed as we talked about life, upcoming events and how thankful we were to have each other. It was this really genuine, loving moment & I specifically remember him being more affectionate than usual. I mean, we're typically all over each other, but he was like, extra lovey. Then before I knew it, he got down on his knee and asked me to be his wife (after pretending he was just down there to fix his shoelace)! Even though he felt bad for not having the ring on him (because he didn't plan to do it then), I loved it. Because it felt real & natural. That was the moment that felt so right to him that he knew he wanted to spend his life with me.

He gave me the ring as soon as we got home from the walk and it was perfect.

Dane
The lead up to our proposal was interesting to say the least. I had it all planned out... the ring, the dinner, the string lighting on the deck, and the date. Now throw that all out the window because I will tell you what really happened. It was a week before the planned date and I was stressed about my masters defense and wanted to get some air outside. We walked downtown to this overlook of the city where Trish took me when we first started dating. The lights and atmosphere were perfect. It just felt right so I proposed then and there, knowing that I didn't have the ring on me that moment. Luckily Trish didn't mind.

Tricia
He is such a goofball! Our dialogue consists mostly of inside jokes and silly nicknames. He's so easy to have fun with, whether we're tangled up in bed, standing in line at the pharmacy or just grocery shopping -we're giggling & fondling each other.

Dane
Trish has a million qualities I love, but my favorite is how genuine she is. I've know and been around enough people in my life who are so lost in whatever character they are trying to portray that it gets to be too much. We all have different roles we play based on work or personal life. Trish is Trish, and that is what you get. An inquisitive, thoughtful, loving, spitfire who I can always count on to be there offering genuine love and support.

Tricia
He's a wealth of knowledge! Always reading or learning something new and he loves to share it all with me.

He puts such care and detail into the things that are important to him - whether it's his physical possessions, hobbies, or our relationship. His dedication and passion is unwavering.

Dane
The sexiest thing about Trish that I will divulge to anonymous readers is her unflinching confidence. She knows what she wants and takes it. I find her confidence extremely attractive. Now get your minds out of the gutter because that's all I'm saying.

Tricia
The sexiest thing about Dane is his natural scent. No cologne, no scented soaps; just him. When I snuggle up close it smells like home. It drives me wild, but also gives me this overwhelming sense of peace & security no matter where we are.

Tricia
We love to spend our weekends wandering or driving around. We start by waking up whenever feels right, sip some coffee while we chat, then hop in the shower together. Once we're ready for the day, we pick a random spot on the map that we haven't seen yet & drive. We'll listen to music, have long talks, or sometimes enjoy the silence and scenery. It's so nice to forget all the responsibility & obligations of the work week and get lost in freedom together.

Dane
One of our favorite traditions is to visit different points of interest on a map. By this I mean that we literally pick a place to go and we visit there. This includes state parks, scenic places, specific stores, and most importantly... chinese buffets! To be completely honest, most of the places tend to be a slight let down, and that is okay. The journey and time together is the part we enjoy. We just pick a destination to give us an excuse to justify the journey.

Photos by Janelle Elaine Photography.


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