Well, spring has sprung which means one thing - wedding season is right around the corner! While preparing to attend my first wedding of the season and planning a bridal shower for the same weekend, I found myself thinking back to my own wedding last year and dolling out all kinds of advice when it comes to the big day. You know, not the cliche’s that bridal stores will tell you, but real, honest advice on what will be the most helpful to set expectations and get you to the best part of it allthe honeymoon!
NOBODY CARES ABOUT CENTERPIECES:
Even if you’re the most particular and prepared bride, think back to any wedding you’ve ever been to and ask yourself if you’ve ever said “that was so much fun - did you see how amazing their centerpieces were?” No. Yes, you want the decor and the atmosphere to look lovely but don’t stress or spend too much time or money on details that most guests won’t even notice. Especially with how expensive weddings in Seattle are now, save where you can! There are also lots of awesome DIY options to cut costs in that department as well.
IT MAY NOT BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE - AND THAT’S OK:
Honestly, unless you elope or have the perfect destination wedding with a select few people, most of the time, you will be stressed leading up to the big day. And not because of cold feet or lack of planning, but because of.. you guessed it, family! Family expectations play a huge part in almost all weddings and brides can waste their worries on trying to make sure Aunt Kathy doesn’t drink too much or that your estranged cousin needs to be in charge of the guest book to feel includedwhatever it is, focus on the fact that this event is just the BEGINNING of your journey with the person you love. This day could very well be magical, but if it’s not, just keep in mind all the amazing memories to come with your new spouse!
SOMETHING WILL GO WRONG, AND YOU’LL BE FINE:
Remember dreaming of prom as a high school kid and imagining your crush asking you, finding the perfect dress, and the best “group” or mix of friends to have the ultimate best time? I’m curious how many prom nights turned out exactly like those dreams. I know mine didn’t! If you put too much pressure on every single thing going off without a hitch, you’ll find yourself getting lost in details and not being able to be present in the moment. If the macaroon tower doesn’t show up, your guests won’t know or care. If the ceremony starts late or your ring bearer runs off with the rings, remember those are just one of hundreds of small details and won’t affect the whole experience. Go with the flow and don’t be afraid to laugh things off. A glass or two of champagne may help in that department as well!
A GOOD DJ CAN MAKE OR BREAK THE RECEPTION:
Choosing your DJ should include as much care, time, and attention as you spent on picking your perfect wedding dress. Music sets the entire vibe and if you’re DJ is corny, plays terrible songs, and takes five minutes to start your walk-out song after the ceremony, that can really put a damper on things. Make sure you’re comfortable with who you hire and that they can handle transitions! Awkward silences and lulls during the night are not conducive to a non-stop party so make sure your DJ can keep the flow going and people on the dance floor!
PICK A MOMENT YOU WANT TO REMEMBER AND STOP TO TAKE A MENTAL PICTURE:
A friend gave me this advice right before I walked down the isle and I’m so glad she did. I took a minute before grabbing my dad’s arm to take a deep breath, smile (try not to cry) and focus on taking in the moment. Because of this, I remember the ceremony so much more clearly than the reception and I think it’s because I made the choice to slow down and savor the moment. It’s so easy for your nerves to take over and have you rushing through every part of the day or evening, making everything a big blur. So choose what is most important for you to experience or remember. Once you know what that moment is, be mindful about it to fully take it in. It’s YOUR wedding, you should enjoy it!
DISCLAIMER: We’ve all been to those weddings where we wonder”should they be doing this?” Too many people get married because they feel like they “should” or it’s the next step.
If you sense you might be one of these couples, have serious doubts about your significant other, or are having any sort of panic attack at the thought of being married to themdon’t do it! That’s allowed. Cancel the wedding, grab your girlfriends, and go to Mexico. It’ll be cheaper than divorce and way easier in the long run.
Happy Wedding Season!